Archive for August, 2010

Quote of the day: LOVE

August 27, 2010


Love is the way messengers
from the mystery tell us things.

— Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)

Photo diary: moments in New Mexico

August 27, 2010

sunrise over Jemez Springs

Lunch at the Laughing Lizard

Kai indulges his oral fixation with lemonade slushies

the hot springs by day

Howie and Hosen, the birthday duo

a Buddhist icon at the Bodhi Center blesses a manhole cover from San Angelo, TX...or vice versa?

Chris and Kai

full moon over Jemez

visiting in Santa Fe with Joe and Ben and Kai

honeycomb from Ben's beehives

Ben in the garden with hibiscus

psychedelic peaches

Darren and Joe

walking stick in Ben's garden


Frank and Don

Ben and Joe

Kai lounging in his favorite spot on the porch

In this week’s New Yorker

August 26, 2010

The ever-impressive Jane Mayer delivers a fascinating, well-reported, disturbing, even devastating expose of David Koch, the oil refinery magnate after whom Lincoln Center’s State Theater has been renamed and who (with his brother Charles) has funded many of the scurrilous Tea Party-related “grass-roots” groups determined to destroy President Obama and his political agenda.

And then there’s the cover image, titled “Pause”…

Photo diary: celebrations

August 26, 2010

We celebrated Dave Nimmons' birthday at his friend Addy's Park Avenue penthouse...

as usual, Dave took the occasion to convene a salon on the topic of mid-life career re-evaluation and listened attentively to all responses

Glenn (in the hat) just completed his doctorate, parchment and initials after his name, the whole shebang -- so his wife Sharon, Michael and Dan, and Andy and I toasted him at Turks and Frogs in the West Village, followed by super-yummy dinner at corsino on Hudson Street

a brief work trip facilitated a reunion with RJ, who was heard to utter a deathless sentence guaranteed to bring on Long Island lockjaw: "I saw the film with Ondi at the Ambulante Festival in Oaxaca."

Mr. David Zinn joined us for the event and provided sound advice on Burning Man costumery. Later, asked for shopping advice, he texted another classic message: "It'll be easier to find tit clamps. Sweater clips are a vintage item." Say it aloud, and you'll know what I mean.

Feature: DADDY/BOY — Love, Power, and Masculinity

August 24, 2010

Several months ago, Unzipped magazine (one of the skin mags published by the same company that owns The Advocate and Out magazine) commissioned from me an article on daddy/boy relationships for a special issue called “Daddy Knows Best.” As luck would have it, they decided to shut down Unzipped, but the editor shifted over to (also owned by Regent Media) and has finally published my article there.

It begins:

“Of all the role-playing scenarios that excite the gay male imagination (master/slave, coach/athlete, cop/civilian, doctor/patient), none is more potent than daddy/boy. The energy that gets activated between two men in this scene is so deep, profound, and erotic that we can only call it mythological. The interplay of strong, protective daddy with adoring, obedient boy uniquely combines love, power, and masculinity in a way that Carl Jung, visiting his local leather bar, would call archetypal, meaning that it goes with the territory of being human. It’s not that everybody is turned on by daddy/boy fantasies, but we can all locate ourselves along the spectrum of being, having, or wanting a good Daddy. What does it mean to engage in daddy/boy fantasies? And how does that dynamic play itself out in gay male relationships?”

To read the whole article, go here.

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