Archive for December, 2010

Theater review: LA BETE

December 11, 2010

I dragged my heels about seeing the Broadway revival of David Hirson’s La Bete because I’d seen the original production, a valiant and smart but short-lived production, and felt like I’d already checked it off the list. I knew people were raving about Mark Rylance’s performance in the central role, and I know he’s a fine actor (above left, with David Hyde Pierce), but I saw him last year in Boeing Boeing and just thought the show was stupid and his performance overrated. Nevertheless, reading John Lahr’s review in the New Yorker inspired me to understand the contemporary political significance of the play, so I arranged to see it, and I’m glad I did. It is indeed a smart and provocative play about culture today, but it’s also a ripping good show. You can read my CultureVulture review online here.

Quote of the day: GRIEF

December 3, 2010


Mourning is the appropriate response to the loss of what we once had or to the sad realization that we did not have all we needed. We are grieving the irretrievable aspect of what we lost and the irreplaceable aspect of what we missed. Only these two realizations lead to resolution of grief because only these two acknowledge, without denial, how truly bereft we were or are. From the pit of this deep admission that something is irrevocably over and gone, we finally stand clear of the insatiable need to find it again from our parents or partner. To have sought it was to have denied how utter was its absence!

Griefwork done with consciousness builds self-esteem since it shows us our courageous faithfulness to the reality of loss. It authenticates us as adults who can say Yes to sadness, anger, and hurt. Such an heroic embrace of our own truth transforms emptiness into capacity. As Jung notes, “your inner emptiness conceals just as great a fullness if you only allow it.”

— David Richo

Photo diary

December 3, 2010

Still Life with Therapist's Wastebasket

Quote of the day: NEED

December 2, 2010


Only those who can take care of themselves are free from the two main obstacles to adult relating: being needy or care-taking others. “I will come to you, my friend, when I no longer need you. Then you will find a palace, not an almshouse,” Thoreau once said.

— David Richo


Playlist: iPod shuffle, 12/2/2010

December 2, 2010

“Only a Girl,” Randy Newman
“Once I Was,” Cowboy Junkies
“Heart’s Desire,” Jessica Molaskey
“Free Ride,” Embrace (Permanent Midnight OST)
“How Sweet It Is,” Joan Osborne
“Your Own Worst Enemy,” Bruce Springstein
“Home,” Brian Eno & David Byrne
“Don’t Have to Be So Sad,” Yo Lo Tengo
“Every Drop of Rain,” David Byrne & Fatboy Slim featuring Candie Payne & St. Vincent (Here Lies Love)
“Shadow of Love,” Celine Dion
“Naked As We Came,” Iron & Wine
“Moonswept,” the Roches
“Horchata,” Vampire Weekend
“Entre amigos,” Stan Getz

“Babyfather,” Sade
“Listen to Me,” Liza Minnelli
“Radio Baghdad,” Patti Smith
“High Horses,” the Swell Season
“Into the Mystic,” Michael McDonald
“Ramona,” Beck (Scott Pilgrim vs. the World OST)
“Perfect White Girl,” Patty Griffin
“Born at the Right Time,” Paul Simon
“I Can Let Go Now,” Michael McDonald
“All We Ask,” Grizzly Bear
“Farewell to Tarwathie,” Judy Collins
“I Don’t Give Up,” Nancy Griffin

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